It’s no wonder that Christians are at a loss with how to deal with this issue. They are usually approaching the issue from a defensive point of view, instead of focusing on the full issue at hand. Before I explain, let’s look at how Christians are being deceived in the first place.
Satan is the father of deception. If you believe in God, you have to believe in Satan (or your faith is not legitimate). Satan is real and he is really good at deceiving people. The number one trick is the same thing magicians used to perform their “magic”. Distraction. You see when Satan tempted Eve in the garden, he didn’t do it directly, he tricked her into questioning what God had really said. “He said to the woman, “Did God actually say, ‘You[a] shall not eat of any tree in the garden’?” (Gen 3:1)
When he comes at us with an argument, we can’t simply fall for his points and defend them, that’s what he wants us to do. We need to approach it with truth. Just like how Jesus handled him when Satan tried to tempt him in the desert.
When it comes to the entire LGBTQ (Lesbian, Gay, BiSexual, Transgender, Questioning) movement, Satan’s focus on Christians is to come at us with the argument of acceptance and forgiveness. After all, isn’t that what the Gospel is all about? When you start to argue with that point in mind, you will always lose. You’re falling for Satan’s lie on the premise to begin with. Satan has patience and has been working on this for a very long time. While he seems to succeed very well in certain cultures and for periods of time, he has not, nor will he ever, win the war.
So, here and now, I will reframe the argument the same way that Paul did in his letter to the churches in Corinth. The debate is not about ‘homosexuality’, it is about ‘sexual immorality’ as defined by the Bible. Sex was designed from the beginning to be between one man and one woman and only in marriage. Period. Most societies changed that definition years ago to eliminate the marriage part. Most societies have total acceptance of the immoral sexuality of sex outside of marriage. It’s practically assumed and even taught in our school systems. Just about every PG13 or TV14 movie or show has pre-marital sex (implied if not actually shown). Our culture has made this so “acceptable” that it is hardly ever argued anymore. But the truth is, Biblically speaking, there is no difference between homosexual sin and heterosexual sex outside of marriage.
When Paul dealt with sexual immorality with the Corinthians, instead of falling for the grace and forgiveness argument, he addressed the situation with direct and blunt truth. While the grace we receive through Jesus Christ does cover our sins (past, present and future) and we are now free, that does not mean we should allow ourselves to be dominated by that freedom. “All things are lawful for me,” but not all things are helpful. “All things are lawful for me,” but I will not be dominated by anything” (1 Cor 6:12) He told them to “Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin[e] a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body” (1 Cor 6:18)
But how is sexual immorality defined? It is not only homosexuality. It is also adultery (Heb 13:4), Orgies and Sensuality (Rom 13:13), what today would be called a ‘cougar’ (1 Cor 5:1), impurity (Gal 5:19), unnatural desires (Jude 1:7), seduction (Rev 2:20). These are just a few examples and it shows just how broad ‘sexual immorality’ really is.
This is where Christians get confused. There’s not one of us that hasn’t engaged in at least one of these in our lifetime. If we truly believe these are immoral, then what right do we have to judge others who also engage in this immoral behavior? This is exactly what Satan wants each and every Christian to believe. But it’s just another lie.
You see, I am guilty of some of that, as is every person reading this blog. So then, what right do I have in judging others for their homosexual lifestyle? The answer is in the question. While I did have a ‘lifestyle’ of sex outside of marriage in my college years, when I became a Christian, I now understood the immorality of it. Did I still have desires and lust after that? Of course, but it was no longer a ‘lifestyle’. God has forgiven me of those sins and of any thoughts since then and yet to come. But I am forgiven (look for my blog on forgiveness next week) and I do not let the freedom I have dominate me.
Out culture today, with the help of Satan, has allowed a line of thinking that says there is no absolute truth. There is no true moral compass. These are lies. Sex belongs ONLY in the relationship of marriage of one man and one woman. Period. There is no reason to dance around this issue.
While we as Christians are called to reach the lost and to love everyone, even our enemies, this means we do not HATE people who are LGBTQ, but we pray for them. We can still love them without accepting their behavior. Just as I love my son even when he gets in trouble at school. I don’t like his behavior, I know he’s forgiven for it, but I still want to train him up better. I love him through the entire process.
We need to love these people, but recognize they are falling for a lie that is centuries old. We are not closed minded for standing strong in this point. We are not bad for calling them out for their sin. We are not mean for claiming that their chosen lifestyle is immoral. We are in great company with Paul and the other apostles.
So my response to churches that say we should love gay people… they are absolutely telling the truth. But my response to churches that say we should accept their lifestyle? They are simply not teaching the Gospel of Jesus Christ. They are simply teaching another message all together.